EVENT: You are given a £500 bonus
CHOICE: You spend it all on a night out
RESULT: You're skint (again)
Or, if you make a different choice...
EVENT: You are given a £500 bonus
CHOICE: You invest the money wisely
RESULT: You have increased your net worth
Which outcome would you prefer?
You have control over three things in your life: the thoughts you think, the images you visualise and the actions you take/your chosen behaviour. So if you find yourself thinking a negative thought, change it. If you don't like where your life is heading, change it. If you don't like the feelings you are experiencing, change them. If you don't like where you are, change - you're not a tree planted into the ground - move! It is better to light a candle than to complain about the dark.
Change your habits. Change your friends. Change your hobbies. Change what you read. Change how you think. Change how you choose to respond. After all...and I do say this an awful lot...
IF YOU ALWAYS DO WHAT YOU'VE ALWAYS DONE, YOU'RE ALWAYS GOING TO GET WHAT YOU'VE ALWAYS GOT.
Repeating the same behaviour time and again, whilst expecting a different result, is the definition of insanity.